I’ve been getting a lot of gift guides in my inbox recently as the holiday season starts in earnest. With all you amazing Moms in mind, I came up with my own. Feel free to share with loved ones who are looking to get you something you really want! Most are free!

What Moms Really Want

We want your promise to never knowingly vote for or politically support someone who sexually assaults women or children. Full stop.
We want paid leave from work when caring for children and family members, subsidized child care when we return to our careers would be great too!
We want our partners to take on the burden of birth control.
We want to have someone we love take pictures of us with our kids without us asking and then send it to us.
We want society and everyone in it to lower their expectations of what a ‘good’ Mom does.
We want summer camp registrations to start after the holiday season.

What Moms Really Do NOT Want

We do not want you to comment on our bodies or ask when we are having another kid.
We do not want to be shamed for bringing our children into places they deserve and we paid for them to be, like airplanes.
We do not want you to expect us to clean our home before you come over. If it’s clean that consider that a bonus/stroke of luck.
We do not want a scented candle and some bubble bath marketed to us as ‘self care’. We want the time and mental space to take care of ourselves.
We do not want to be denied life saving medical care when we are miscarrying.
We do not want your opinions on how wrong our parenting choices are.

What am I missing? What do you really want or not want this year?

Wishing you all a joyful and peaceful Thanksgiving!

With gratitude,

Dr. Lizzie